I met a homeless lady outside the Newberg Fred Meyer the other day. After talking for a while, I asked her, “Do you mind telling me how you became homeless?” She replied, “Of course not because I’d rather be homeless than return to my previous life.”
At first, I thought her statement was odd, but after hearing her story I became slightly envious. She told me,
“There was a time in my life when everyone I knew was asking me to either attend their event, join their study, register for their conference, schedule time to give blood, invite others to their fundraiser, support their social cause, signup for their retreat, volunteer at their training, buy their IdontCare, invest in their startup, walk at their 5K, and donate to their nonprofit dinner.
Then, on top of that, my women friends who didn’t have jobs would create events during the day and ask me to attend or help even though I had a day job. I didn’t have the courage to say no because they were so adamant and passionate.
The onslaught and barrage of emails, messengers, tweets, texts, and phone calls became so burdensome and tiresome. Every day seemed to blend into the next like a social media version of the movie Ground Hog Day.
I ended up losing my mind and my job because I was attending so many events during the day and showing up late to work due to being up so late the night before.
Then, one night DHS showed up at my house and took my children away while I was at a class. They said that Netflix wasn’t an appropriate babysitter and that I should be at home with my kids opposed to taking classes on ‘How To Be A Better Millennial Mom.’
So, here I am homeless and broke … but you know what? Although I miss my children, I’ve never had this much peace. You know why? Because no one asks homeless people to attend their events!”
Exercise the word NO … more often.
Your peace will return and your children will thank you one day.